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I have a question for all you guys who like and have carried bigger girls (over 200 lbs) on your shoulders. I am a bigger girl, and recently, I have met a guy who can lift me on his shoulders. I really enjoy the experience, as I like the sensation of being on his shoulders. And I can feel his strength as he lifts me up. However, we have a problem with balance and must hold onto something to keep from falling. He is very strong, so I don't think his strength is the issue. But my question is, when you have carried a bigger girl on your shoulders, have you had success at walking around with her on your shoulders, or have you had to hold onto something? And if you have had success at walking around with her on your shoulders, was it you (the carrier) who was doing the balancing, or does the rider have to position herself in a certain way? Also, did the girls you carried have upper body fat distribution or lower body fat? I have more upper body fat, but I don't know if that has something to do with it or not. Any advice (without degrading comments to me or to the guy) is greatly appreciated. Thanks. :-)
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I have a question for all you guys who like and have carried bigger girls (over 200 lbs) on your shoulders. I am a bigger girl, and recently, I have met a guy who can lift me on his shoulders. I really enjoy the experience, as I like the sensation of being on his shoulders. And I can feel his strength as he lifts me up. However, we have a problem with balance and must hold onto something to keep from falling. He is very strong, so I don't think his strength is the issue. But my question is, when you have carried a bigger girl on your shoulders, have you had success at walking around with her on your shoulders, or have you had to hold onto something? And if you have had success at walking around with her on your shoulders, was it you (the carrier) who was doing the balancing, or does the rider have to position herself in a certain way? Also, did the girls you carried have upper body fat distribution or lower body fat? I have more upper body fat, but I don't know if that has something to do with it or not. Any advice (without degrading comments to me or to the guy) is greatly appreciated. Thanks. :-)
I would use him as my seat then, to watch TV etc, with him sitting so no balancing problems. Or to train him every day for some ride, I think it’s his job as horse to keep you balanced and safe, punish him by kicking his ribs or squeezing his neck if he fails, he will get better eventually, but takes a lot of training though.
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I am not especially strong and I have not had to hold on to anything. But, balance is certainly an issue with a top heavy ride and it is a mutual effort between the carrier and the rider.
Send me an email if you like....happy to talk more!
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Thank you for your replies. :-)
I do also know that both the carrier and rider have to work together for balance. (for Patrick) How do you achieve balance when you have carried bigger girls? How do you stand, and how is she seated on you? Do you have pictures that show this stance, so I can get an idea of what I or we are doing wrong?
Thanks.
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Pickles- I don't have pictures of my personal experiences to share publicly but there are pics out there of big women riding on shoulders. I don't recall standing an the differently with a heavy rider than with a lighter one. Perhaps I widened my stance or made other adjustments subconsciously. Her seating would depend on her body type and shape. For example, if she has a big belly it can be difficult to get seated in a good forward position. I have seen guys use some bad techniques when trying to lift and carry a bigger woman too.
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Pickles.:
I'm not a big girl myself but I have two women friends who are much larger and still manage to ride on the shoulders of men smaller than themselves. One is somewhat over 250 lbs. and the other over 200 lbs. Both are more bottom heavy but the smaller of the two has been riding on her husband's shoulders for over 10 years and has got him to carry her for up to two miles without any rest periods during her ride. The husband/carrier is 25lbs lighter than she is and she told me that she has no problem keeping her balance while sitting on him . She believes, and I agree that the carrier has a responsibility to position himself and walk in a manner that keeps her balanced .
My 250+lbs. friend has only recently started to ride on her carrier's shoulders and has a similar concern about keeping her balance. She enjoys riding on her carriers but so far has limited her riding to indoors until she is confident in his ability to carrier her on outdoor rides. She prefers to sit on his back in the all fours position which of course is impractical for outdoor riding activities.
A male friend who rides on several different men is also top heavy though he is somewhat smaller than you are.
He is very demanding of his carriers and from what I have witnessed, rather casual concerning balance when sitting on one of them. The carriers are very diligent in balancing him on their shoulders and having them trained to keep you balanced on top of them may be the key to such issues.
In any case I commend you for not allowing your size to be a deterrent to your enjoyment of this activity.
Always try to remember that as the rider, you are in charge just as you would be riding a horse or any other beast of burden. Regardless of any other aspect of your relationship with the carrier, your enjoyment of the activity is primary and his is to serve for as long as you re sitting on him.
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Thank you again for your replies :-)
To Audrey: Did you happen to ever see your two bigger friends during their shoulder riding times? Did you happen to notice how they were sitting, particularly the 250+ one? I am right in the middle of their weights at 220lbs, and I have more upper body weight than lower. So maybe it's my upper body that is making me top heavy and unable to balance? I don't really know. I guess I just want to know if there is a certain way I should be sitting on his shoulders that would keep me from having the tendency of falling backwards. We have worked out ways that I can still be on his shoulders but not fall, like us both hanging onto something like a tree or fence, or where he is sitting down with his back up against something, and I am on his shoulders with my back supported against whatever it is that he is against. But we both, especially he, wants to be able to walk with me on his shoulders. He exercises a lot, so he is very strong and has no trouble lifting me up.
Thank you for your encouragement. I am very happy I have been able to ride in his shoulders, even if we are walking anywhere. I enjoy it very much, and he does too. :-)
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While sitting on his shoulders...You should not put or push your Tummy on his head..that is very difficult and creates imbalance.
Another thing you should try is Hold his hands...while riding me..that will help in keep balance..
Dont bend forward while Shoulder riding him....Try to sit on shoulders as straight back as possible..
I am a horse..and telling you from my experiences of carrying heavy girls..
If you anytime coming to India...you have a horse here...for rides..
Thanks
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Pickles:
Please forgive any misconception I may have concerning your figure but sight unseen, I must imagine that with your weight in your upper body, you have something of a tummy.
If this is the case, you should not sit on your carrier's shoulders while pulling his head into your tummy. This would only serve to shift your weight backward , making you less stable on him.
Instead, sit as far forward as possible. This will probably require him to bend his neck forward of course but he should still be able to see where he is going. You may of course lean forward as well but only enough to maintain your seat. It's usually best if you have his shoulders at least partially supporting your buttocks so that your spinal column is as closely aligned with his as possible.
To find your proper sitting position you might experiment with sitting on him with his back against a wall and your back against the wall on top of him. In that position, try crossing your ankles in front of his torso instead of tucked behind his arms and have him move a few inches away from the wall and see if you feel comfortable and stable in that position. You may have to adjust until you are comfortable sitting there and he is confident in balancing you.
I have watch both of my friends riding their respective carriers several times . The lighter one (200 lbs +) moves around quite a bit , sitting both forward and back at times while her husband is required to keep her balanced. I know that she moves because his shoulders are not as comfortable to sit on as she would like and she moves to relieve the pressure on her thighs and have his body support her buttocks. I know this because I have had experience sitting on bony shoulders myself.
The Heavier lady (250 lbs) is relatively new to shoulder riding. He carrier is a dedicated admirer of hers and she very much enjoyed sitting on his back in the all fours position, but was afraid of shoulder riding for the same reasons you're having problems. I convinced her that she could sit on his shoulders or find a man she could feel more confident on. They started with experimenting with him sitting on an easy chair while she sat on his shoulders astride his neck. They practiced this position until she found it comfortable and he became used to her weight on his back and neck.
He was not an enthusiastic carrier but he is quite dedicated to her happiness and like your carrier, he has been trying to build up his strength and endurance to please her so she doesn't choose a better man for the purpose. Since I suggested the activity, I witnessed their progress many times and she feels confident enough to ride on his shoulders indoors but not outdoors yet.
I don't know how tall you are but my friend is almost 5ft 10 in tall. So even though she is bottom heavy, balance is still a factor. But it really is the responsibility of the carrier to balance and support the rider's weight just as it would be his responsibility to do so carrying anything.
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I once carried a young lady on the shoulders 1,98 m tall and "216 lbs. Heavy to lift we needed to stop at the closet but then I carried her free. for her it was a new experience after a short unscience very good felt on
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I have carried woman, who weight 140 kg (309 lb). I have lot of pictures in my pc about my carries. She is very strong and compete in shot put in international level. At first she was afraid I can't carry her because I weight 40 kg (88 lb) less than she but I promised I can carry her. I couldn't lift her from ground so she had to mount on my shoulders from chair. She said it was her first time on shoulder - and all went well until I had to let her down. My legs hurt :-(
I haven't had balance problems because my body is always straight so that is easy for woman to sit on my shoulders.
In Creece I said to girls: "you can't fall down from my shoulders even if you try your best". Some girls didn't believe me so I said "let's compete, girls ride on my shoulders and do anything to make me collapsed or make me drop girl down - and if you manage fall down, I give you xxxx euros." There were women, who weights 65 kg, 85 kg, 98 kg and 75 kg, which jump on my shoulders, sit on my back of neck squeezing hard, doing anything but I was standing up and I didn't let women fall down until last woman scratch her fingernails my arm so I had to go down quickly and push her away :-( so I lost that bet but she was unfair...
Yes, carrier can hold by hands woman's legs so it's impossible to for her to fall down even if woman's balance is miserable.
Bergt
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Heavier girls are the best. Heaviest I have had was 180pounds. This was at a concert. I held her up for 45 minutes. Had to take a break then held her up again for about 30 minutes. Was a great experience.
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Hi y'all,
Thank you for all of your responses. It sounds like you have had quite a lot of experiences carrying girls.
To Audreyb: Thank you for your suggestions. I appreciate the detail you put into describing how to stand and sit. No misconception. Yes, I do have more of a belly, so his head is pushed forward more so already. I am short, only 5ft. He is 5'10''. The next time we do shoulder riding, I will remember and try out your posture suggestions.
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Pickles wrote:
I have a question for all you guys who like and have carried bigger girls (over 200 lbs) on your shoulders. I am a bigger girl, and recently, I have met a guy who can lift me on his shoulders. I really enjoy the experience, as I like the sensation of being on his shoulders. And I can feel his strength as he lifts me up. However, we have a problem with balance and must hold onto something to keep from falling. He is very strong, so I don't think his strength is the issue. But my question is, when you have carried a bigger girl on your shoulders, have you had success at walking around with her on your shoulders, or have you had to hold onto something? And if you have had success at walking around with her on your shoulders, was it you (the carrier) who was doing the balancing, or does the rider have to position herself in a certain way? Also, did the girls you carried have upper body fat distribution or lower body fat? I have more upper body fat, but I don't know if that has something to do with it or not. Any advice (without degrading comments to me or to the guy) is greatly appreciated. Thanks. :-)
I would use him as my seat then, to watch TV etc, with him sitting so no balancing problems. Or to train him every day for some ride, I think it’s his job as horse to keep you balanced and safe, punish him by kicking his ribs or squeezing his neck if he fails, he will get better eventually, but takes a lot of training though.
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in my opinion and experience, riding girl is in position to find her comfortable and secure on shoulders using a few tricks
first sit enough deep where is the beginning of neck
than straight your back
and lock your feet behind his back while he holds your legs with his hands...
It is simple.....
Regards
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Pickles wrote:
I have a question for all you guys who like and have carried bigger girls (over 200 lbs) on your shoulders. I am a bigger girl, and recently, I have met a guy who can lift me on his shoulders. I really enjoy the experience, as I like the sensation of being on his shoulders. And I can feel his strength as he lifts me up. However, we have a problem with balance and must hold onto something to keep from falling. He is very strong, so I don't think his strength is the issue. But my question is, when you have carried a bigger girl on your shoulders, have you had success at walking around with her on your shoulders, or have you had to hold onto something? And if you have had success at walking around with her on your shoulders, was it you (the carrier) who was doing the balancing, or does the rider have to position herself in a certain way? Also, did the girls you carried have upper body fat distribution or lower body fat? I have more upper body fat, but I don't know if that has something to do with it or not. Any advice (without degrading comments to me or to the guy) is greatly appreciated. Thanks. :-)
Hi, is not a problem of strength, is a problem of balance. your balance is taller when you carried other person, he need open and bent the legs. i want carried you
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I have had girls up to 230lbs on my shoulders, no problem.
So long as they steady themselves by holding on to something next to a wall say as you lift, then once they are up, you just tuck their legs behind your back/shoulders and hold their legs in place firmly with your arms. This gives a nice steady tower, and gives the girl confidence that you are not going to drop them.
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