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Hi everyone, so I went to a rave. For the first time, I asked this tall Latino guy for a shoulder ride and he said yes (I was shirtless by the way). He was friendly and shook my hand after putting me down. After this, I tried asking other guys but they refused. Dunno how I got one from the first guy I asked, but I consider myself lucky.
Would you guys have any tips on how I can ask guys for shoulder rides at raves?
Thanks for your time
Last edited by Lolzers (2018-05-14 05:25:38)
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Lolzers:
Your profiles states that you are a male. I must ask if you are gay? This is not judgmental and in fact my best friend is a gay man and I have several gay male friends.
I must ask because I think that it's somewhat unusual for a man to ask another man that he doesn't know, if he could sit on his shoulders.
I say this non-judgmentally because I find nothing wrong with a male on male shoulder riding/sitting situation.
But I think it might be considered strange and in some cases perhaps dangerous for a man to request this service from a man he doesn't know.
I'm a woman and I would find asking a strange man to let me sit on his shoulders rather awkward.
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Audreyb,
For a setting like a street or a store, it may be strange to ask someone for a shoulder ride. However at a rave it's more acceptable since shoulder riding is commonplace, especially since people want to see the stage. Also, you may say it's dangerous to ask, but I'd say analyzing the person's body language first can help filter out if they're dangerous, including their tone of voice when you speak to them.
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I'm certain that there are signs that you might read in a person to gauge his receptiveness to such a proposal. I can usually tell if a man might be receptive to a given suggestion or request by the way he looks at me or if he's paying attention to something going on around him.
I have seen many cases of male on male shoulder riding and sitting but I have never personally encountered a case of a man asking a random stranger for this service.
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Well, it's 2018 now where "strange" things like LGBTQ are gradually becoming a norm. Anyways, would you have tips on how a guy can ask for shoulder rides at raves, AudreyB?
Last edited by Lolzers (2018-05-16 07:31:17)
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If any man ever asks me take him on my shoulders, I should wonder WHY HE ASKS THAT but I NEVER be angry (it's difficult to make me angry) so I should answer only politely "I never take men on my shoulders, only women".
If any woman in skirt/dress/bikinies asks me take her on my shoulders, I should say OF COURSE, IT'S MY PLEASURE YOU ARE WELCOME and I should be the happiest man in that planet!
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Lolzers:
I was curious about your question so I asked the only man I know who specifically enjoys and participates in riding on other men's shoulders. This man is gay and a very close friend so I could expect his honest opinion.
He couldn't think of a single way to approach a stranger in a public setting and ask the stranger if he could sit on his shoulders. He also confirmed my opinion that doing so with the exception of asking someone who was clearly gay or had perhaps had been seen offering a shoulder ride to another man could bring about a hostile response. My friend's only advice on the subject was that you attend raves and other such events with a friend that agrees to let you sit on him.
Sorry I couldn't be more helpful.
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I would give you a shoulder ride at any rave , or concert when you want
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AudreyB,
I appreciate you asking your friend. His response helped. Also I'm not surprised of both your answers. However, we miss 100% of the shots we don't take, considering how lucky I was to get a shoulder ride from a friendly guy. The risk of having a hostile response makes the adventure feel fun and daring, until I find a guy that says yes (which feels rewarding)!
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I was at a rave once and had a guy come up to me and squat down signaling me to get on his shoulders. He didn’t even say a word before I got up and mounted him. I like giving and getting rides to men mostly but will carry women. To have him so confidently offer his service I could not deny.
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Subponyboy wrote:
I was at a rave once and had a guy come up to me and squat down signaling me to get on his shoulders. He didn’t even say a word before I got up and mounted him. I like giving and getting rides to men mostly but will carry women. To have him so confidently offer his service I could not deny.
Good for you! May I ask, why did he come to you out of everyone else? Are you shorter than him or had trouble seeing the DJ, that he came to you? Also, what were you and him wearing? Did you have a shirt on? 😉
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