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Soon-To-Be Shoulder Rider wrote:

Hi everyone,

I'm new to this site and was thrilled to find it.  My question for the men (although other women are free to respond if they wish) is this: I just began a relationship with a friend who recently admitted to me that he wanted to be more than friends.  I felt the same way about him, so I'm grinning ear to ear as I write this.   Anyway, we have not discussed the carrying issue at all, and I'm wondering how to approach it with him.  There is a potential health problem involved with this, but I'll introduce that in another topic thread.  I have had three long-term relationships in the past, and at that time was very overweight.  After being in each relationship for a few months, I would casually tell the man that because I'm overweight, I think it would be the sexiest thing in the world to be carried by a man.  Two of the men were physically unable to carry me, but both said they would do so if I lost enough weight.  The third man -- oh my -- we never tried shoulder riding but he was strong enough to lift me off of the ground even at my heaviest -- a complete turn-on.  My point is that it seems like the majority of men are open to at least occasionally carrying a woman in some manner.  The strong man even offered to lift more weights to be able to lift me more! 

I'm working from the theory that my new boyfriend would be willing to carry me a little bit.  How do you think I should approach the shoulder riding angle?  (I'm assuming that he's not as into it as most of the men on this site).  I won't get to see him for a few months, so I may be light enough to ride on his shoulders by that point.  I thought about just telling him, like with the others, that having been overweight for so long I would love to be carried.  At first I'll just mention carrying in general (because really I would love to be carried in any manner), and if he seems receptive to it then I'll specifically mention shoulder riding.  Does this sound like a safe way for me to raise the topic with him?  Any advice would be much appreciated.

As for my suggestions:

I've read a few posts on this site from men wondering how to get their significant others to sign on for shoulder rides.  My advice for you would be not to approach it exclusively from the shoulder aspect, at least not at first.  It might be a little off-putting for a woman who's not into this as much as I am to think that her man has such a non-wavering focus on one obsession.  So I would suggest finding a suitable discussion point (say, seeing a man carrying a woman in his arms in a movie), and casually mentioning afterward that you've heard most women enjoy being carried, and how does she feel about it?  If she's open to it, give her a piggyback ride on your back or carry her to bed in your arms.  If she enjoys it, make it a fairly regular pattern.  Then one day you can suggest a shoulder ride and see if she goes for it.
You may find that you have little trouble winning her over.

For men who are single and who like to carry heavy women, you should have no trouble either.  I guarantee you that eight out of ten women who are significantly overweight would be extremely excited to find a man to carry them.  So if you have a single, overweight (and by overweight I mean at least 200 pounds, because I imagine most men would have trouble lifting that amount of weight) female friend, I would suggest spending an evening doing whatever socially with them, and then at the end giving them a nice bear hug, and lift them off of the ground just a little.  I once had a male friend who was extremely strong do this for me, and I was grinning like an idiot for the next few days.  It takes that little to make a lot of women who aren't used to being lifted by a man happy (it's a total turn-on to know that there's someone out there who's capable of doing that for you).  Eventually, if she seems to enjoy this, you can offer her a shoulder ride.  Now, I must offer a couple of warnings.  If the woman is anything like me, she would probably say, "Oh, I'm too heavy to lift."  You can then say, "Well, I once carried a woman who weighed 225 pounds -- or whatever your weight limit is -- on my shoulders, so if you weigh less than that this should work."  But please, PLEASE absolutely do not try carrying an overweight woman unless you have done so before and definitely know that you can handle her weight.  Aside from rude comments, most overweight women suffer numerous size-related indignities throughout life -- a seat belt that won't fit properly, for example, or not being sure if a folding chair could safely hold her weight.  If a man had offered to carry me and then couldn't do it because I was too heavy, I would have been extremely humiliated.  So please, if you're going to make the offer, be sure you can back it up.

I hope to find some advice on my boyfriend situation and also that my suggestions were helpful to someone.

Happy Fourth to my fellow Americans!

Ellen

How you approach this man, Ellen, with the request that he shoulder carry you, depends on him. You know better than us what he is like. What turns on one turns off another.  I would be fine with my lady asking, "Under what circumstances would you be willing to and enjoy shoulder carrying me because I would love to be shoulder carried."

Best of luck to you again, Ellen. My father always wanted "the sure thing."  As far as I can tell, the only time he ever got that was once he was dead.

I doubt there is a sure fire way to get your guy to enjoy shoulder carrying you. Of course, you need to find ways to make it rewarding for him to comply with your wishes. Killerwhales and other marine animals are effectively handled in no other way so I have heard. I have read in books written by women that this is the best way to handle guys too.
Maybe you want to read books by Michelle Wiener Davis or Amy Sutherland (if I see them practice what they write I will wrap around their little fingers) or Dale Carnegie's book, How to Win Friends and Influence People.  That website, Real Women Don't Do Housework has some good training principles that I doubt will work on all men and I do not agree with most of  the end goals but it would be good to have a future husband help you with housework and childcare.