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My curiosity concerning this activity and the people who participate has grown recently and this is the only outlet I'm aware of where I might find honest answers. As I have previously said, I'm not very experienced and I have very few acquaintances who pursue the activity even occasionally.
My questions are for riders and carriers of both genders and all persuasions and based on some of the stories, remarks and attitudes expressed by people here that I read in this forums archives.
#1: As a rider, is there any specific or general type of clothing you prefer to wear when riding?
#2: As a rider, is there any particular or general type of clothing you prefer your carrier to wear?
#3: As a carrier ,is there any clothing you prefer your rider to wear or you prefer to wear while carrying him or her?
#4: As a carrier, would you prefer your rider to be lighter than you , near your size or heavier?
#5: As a rider, would you prefer to be carried by a smaller/lighter carrier, the same size or bigger/stronger?
#6: As a rider, would you accept a ride from someone who was of the opposite gender of the gender you prefer to carry?
#7: As a carrier would you willingly carry a person of the opposite gender of the gender you prefer to carry?
# 8: (Riders only) would you consider hiring someone to carry you on his/her shoulders for either enjoyment or for practical purposes when circumstances make walking impractical for you?
Any responders may of course choose to answer or discount any questions you prefer.
Thank you in advance to those who choose to participate.
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Interesting set of questions,taking them in order:-
1-3. Does not really matter,depends on the time of year and weather,the hotter the temperature the less cover required.
4. Lighter than me,female for choice.
5-6 N/A
7 Prefer female but have carried males.
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#3: Mini-skirt
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Hi Audrey -
I being a carrier like -
- To be Ridden by Heavy Females.
- To be willing to carry any Female, if she choose or want to ride me
- I want that the Female riding me, should wear Horse Riding Jodhpur Clothes - If you know what i am talking about
With Full equipment's. - So Proper Horse and Jockey Scenario.
Thanks
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Hi, Ms Audrey
I reply only as a carrier :
2) Ideally a carrier should be naked ... Usually impossible then just a short will do
3) Any kind of comfortable clothing. Should be convenient for riding which means with boots if stirrups are to be used.
4) Lighter, but only because it allows longer rides
7) Yes ... although I prefer Female riders
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Audrey,
I am glad to read that you are becoming a more eager shoulder rider. The community needs people like you!
Here are my answers to your stimulating post, from the point of view of a carrier:
- I prefer wearing shoes and shorts, with my chest and abdomen exposed for my rider to kick or spur.
- I prefer my rider to wear jodhpurs or leggings, because they better distribute the weight on my shoulders and neck compared to tougher fabric such as jeans. And I like seeing my rider's feet in riding or cowboy boots.
- I prefer my rider to be lighter than me, to ensure a long and satisfying performance. However I have willingly made exceptions. I am 185 lbs and I once carried a 230 lbs rider.
- I prefer carrying women, but I have willingly carried men as long as they were dominant / demanding riders. Ideally, I would have a woman be my primary rider and also lend me to whoever she wants, including male riders.
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I find it interesting that most of the respondents(men) are willing to carry men/boys though the majority prefer to carry women.
It's also interesting that the clothing choices for the carriers and riders were not what I expected.
I assumed that the choice for the carriers would involve bare legs for both practical and personal reasons. The practical reason, based on my limited experience would be the riders grip on the carrier's neck and head. When riding on a man's shoulders while wearing shorts that covered most of my thighs, I found it more difficult to maintain my seat on him. This was never the case when mounted for a chicken fight at the beach while wearing a bathing suit , even when I was struggling with another rider in the water and everyone was wet.
I appreciate the attitude of the responders involving the rider loaning the carrier to be ridden by others regardless of gender. Since my experience in riding a man who disliked carrying a woman (me) but was loaned to me for that purpose, I think I would prefer to be able to return the favor if I pursued this activity frequently enough to have a (stable?) of carriers .
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Audrey, I am sure most carriers on this forum would be delighted to be ridden by you, as well as to let you loan them to any other rider of your choice, irrespective of their gender and sexual orientation.
I definitely would be. And I would obey those riders as if they were you, because I would consider those rides a service to you: they would allow you to return the favor, and probably to feel a complete sense of power and ownership over your carrier.
So if you ever decide to start building that stable, please give me a shout!
What you said about bare legs is true: they definitely provide a better grip. My preference is for leggings because they don't take too much away from the feeling, they are comfortable, and they partially protect my rider's skin from my sweat. But I would certainly not complain if my rider preferred skin-to-skin contact!
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Hi Audrey
I answer to questions as a carrier.
3) For me, no matter the rider's clothing. As a carrier I prefer wear comfortable clothing.
4) I prefer carry a rider who is heavier than me, I love the contrast heavy/light.
7) Only male riders
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I'll reply in order starting with "brad's shoulders".
I appreciate your candor and while I have no plans to pursue this activity at this point to the degree that I might accommodate a "stable", my feeling is that the activity requires the rider to be in control in all matters concerning the activity, including directing his/her carriers be required to bear any person he/she directs him to carry if it is physically reasonable for the carrier to do so.
oguh: I respect your views in your preferences and have several gay friends who prefer male only situation and activities. All my male gay friends are dominant , including of course the one who directed his submissive to serve as my carrier. Personally I'm indifferent to the sexual orientation of a person if I'm just sitting on his shoulders, but I have no problem with those who might refuse to carry anyone but their preferred gender. However, I do believe that if a carrier agrees to carry someone, he/she should serve that person in this capacity to the best of his ability or simply not agree in the first place.
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Audrey,
I'm completely agree with you that the carrier must serve properly his rider and that the rider dominates his carrier.
The rider is the master !
PS: I'm a carrier
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Definitely agree on the rider being in charge. I would actually take it one step further, and say that my riders can treat me like their property for the duration of my service to them. This includes being as demanding and harsh as they wish - within the limit of safety and reasonability - and lending me to whoever they want, as if I was an animal that they own.
With that said, of course I have other interests beside shoulder riding... so while the idea of being owned is a very exciting game - which I would practice even for an entire weekend - I would not want to be part of a "stable" if that meant "24/7 servitude" or any arrangement changing my life in a radical way... though I know people who would!
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Under any normal circumstances the rider and his/her carrier would obviously be free and consenting people with lives to lead. This would of course put limits on both parties concerning the degree of harshness involved. Unless they are engaged in a relationship that specifically implies extremes, a rider doing physical damage that would interfere with his everyday life, such as whipping or spurring to excess or driving him until he suffers serious injury would normally be out of the question.
I would imagine a "stable" to be rather more a consensual situation involving riders who can call upon members of a group in his/her stable to make themselves available to serve the rider/master ,either at the rider's leisure or at a prescribed and designated time and place. A "stable" as such would ensure that at least one carrier would likely be available to serve the carrier.
I can imagine that most if not all other aspects of these relationships would be basically friendly, or at least agreeable to both parties.
However, when the master sits on his/her carrier, the roles and position of both become exactly what their respective positions imply.
I would see this much as a rider might concerning a horse or other beast of burden.
That is that the rider might care about the horse and groom and feed him, once he/she is sitting on the horse, he takes control and directs the horse as sternly as required to achieve obedience to the master's will. The degree must be left up to the master or the relationship should be reevaluated to the satisfaction of both parties, or ended.
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Interesting question Audreyb
#3: As a carrier ,is there any clothing you prefer your rider to wear or you prefer to wear while carrying him or her?
I would like to carry a Girl wearing cowgirl outfit.
#4: As a carrier, would you prefer your rider to be lighter than you , near your size or heavier?
Lighter than me or near my size, it would be easy to carry her. If I carry a heavier girl the ride could be a little short.
#7: As a carrier would you willingly carry a person of the opposite gender of the gender you prefer to carry?
No. I only would like to carry girls.
What about your clothing and other preferences, Audreyb?
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Dragon:
My clothing preferences are based on reasonable comfort ,my comfort of course, and then that of the carrier. I prefer shorts of a material that allows me to sit comfortably in the position astride the carrier's shoulders without binding and also soft enough to not chafe his neck. I have found that short-shorts are better than those that reach below the mid thigh because my skin gives me a better purchase on the carriers neck and shoulders than fabric does. Denim shorts didn't work very well the first time I tried wearing them because while they allowed me to sit comfortably enough, they chafed my carrier's neck , distracting him and causing him to squirm which resulting in me having to reposition myself on him. I suppose a standard bathing suit or bikini would be the most obvious choice but only practical for beaches or pools of course and not suitable for riding in the woods which is my favorite place to ride and obviously some degree of modesty must be practiced.
Needless to say that the degree of intimacy between the rider and her/his carrier may dictate the choice of fashions. Since I'm not intimate with every carrier I've sat on, that factor may influence my choices as well.
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#1 As the rider, I like to wear a cotton top and cotton blend stretch pants or shorts, as I feel less constricted and free to bend and move
#2 I like my carrier wearing a t-shirt and jeans, as the t-shirt is thinner, which makes me feel more of his muscles under me, and keeps his neck uncovered
#5 I like to ride on someone stronger than me, as I feel more secure. I haven't ridden on anyone who has been smaller than me, but I can imagine it would be kind of scary, hee hee.
#6 I would ride on any gender's shoulders, though I do prefer to be on a guy's shoulders
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Pickles:
Men seem to be the preferred carrier for most riders, which is of course practical .
Your choice of clothing for yourself and your carrier is also practical though I would recommend short shorts if weather and other conditions permit because your carrier's T shirt can slip and your bare thighs on his neck will give you a better grip even if his neck is perspiring.
A stronger carrier is obviously a better choice but it can be quite amusing (for me at least) when a carrier tries and fails to lift me. This is usually when the carrier puts his head between your legs from behind and tries to lift by straightening his back. You just sit on him and feel him straining to stand up . Several have failed to get my toes off the ground and it's really quite funny.
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Audreyb,
I agree that short shorts would be more suitable. Most of the time, I haven't been able to wear shorts, as the weather was too cool when we saw each other. But I will certainly keep your suggestions in mind. I can imagine it feeling more comfortable for me, too.
Unless he has me sit on his shoulders when he is sitting down, he usually lifts me by how you described, which I prefer much more than trying to stand on something to sit on him. I practically fall on him when trying to sit on him when standing on something, hee hee. Most of the time, he is able to lift me with him putting his head through my legs and lifting me from behind. However, there have been a couple times where he couldn't (when he hasn't exercised for a couple weeks), and I would either be scared of falling or feel bad from my own insecurity about my weight, since I'm on the heavy side, though he has never made me feel bad in the slightest about my weight. But that's fun you can find amusement from the failed attempts some of your carriers had.
Audreyb wrote:
Pickles:
Men seem to be the preferred carrier for most riders, which is of course practical .
Your choice of clothing for yourself and your carrier is also practical though I would recommend short shorts if weather and other conditions permit because your carrier's T shirt can slip and your bare thighs on his neck will give you a better grip even if his neck is perspiring.
A stronger carrier is obviously a better choice but it can be quite amusing (for me at least) when a carrier tries and fails to lift me. This is usually when the carrier puts his head between your legs from behind and tries to lift by straightening his back. You just sit on him and feel him straining to stand up . Several have failed to get my toes off the ground and it's really quite funny.
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Pickles:
I'm not very heavy and the 'would-be" carriers who have tried to lift me and failed were usually old or very weak and all but one wanted to try. The exception was a very skinny boy who was suppose to be my carrier in a chicken fight when I was a teenager.
I'm sorry that you have reservations concerning your weight. Weight shaming is one of my pet peeves and my mother and a dear friend endured and suffered disparagements because of their weight.
It's your carriers responsibility to bear your weight and should take this responsibility seriously if he pursues this activity. Your comfort and safety when you're sitting on him should be his priority and he should stay in shape for the activity.
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Audreyb,
Wow, it sounds like you have had a lot of carriers. How did you manage to find them? I always thought I was on the heavy side, and no one ever offered me a shoulder ride until the guy who gives me shoulder rides now. But as I read other people's entries, I see that my lightest weight (which was 122 lbs when I was a teen) would have been easy for most guys. The only offer I received that came kind of close to a shoulder ride was a guy offering to give me a piggyback ride. And I thought that was amazing, hee hee, as it occurred out of the blue. My friends, my sister and her guy friend, and I were outside just hanging out, and my sister was swinging around one of my friends. While watching this, I was wishing for someone to swing me around or carry me in some way. Just then, her guy friend knelt down in front me with his back toward me, saying, "Get on my back". I got sooo excited and climbed onto his back. Then, he went running around the yard with me on him, and all of my friends running after us. It was such a great time! I still don't know how he knew I wanted that, since I never vocalized my desire.
Thank you for your sympathy about my weight insecurities. The guy friend I have now who gives me shoulder rides does make sure I am most comfortable and safely secure on his shoulders, and if there is ever any doubts, he will put me down and start over. He actually has told me that his main purpose for exercising is to build up his strength to carry me on his shoulders and in other ways too. The only times he would kinda slack in exercising was during extremely stressful work times when he was chronically too tired. I don't feel much insecurity about my weight when I am with him, since he often comments about how light I feel on him, and that carrying me is one of his most exciting activities. So I never have to worry and can trust him completely.
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Pickles:
I honestly don't know if I have had an unusual umber of carriers. In my teens , chicken fights at the beach were rather common occurrences. They were usually suggested by one of the boys but I know the girls always looked forward to this sort of game. I was one of the smaller girls so finding a guy to ride was not a problem even if I wasn't with a boyfriend at the time.
Until a couple of years ago I didn't usually "Ride" on a guy's shoulders as in being carried any distances. I would often asked to sit on my boyfriend's shoulders or he would offer to have me sit on him at concerts, parades or whatever where I wanted a view of whatever was going on. I of course demanded that my husband (now ex husband) perform this service but he only carried me twice for any distance . Most of the times I had him lift me and I sat on him in a stationary situation.
A male friend who likes to ride on guy's shoulders invited me to an outing and loaned me a carrier.
The carrier was a gay man who resented carrying me and only did so to stay in the good graces of my friend. My friend insisted that I "take control" and I found that I liked doing exactly that and I have since concluded that the riding being in charge of the carrier is the way it should be.
Since that time I simply expressed an interest in riding on the shoulders of some of the men I date and found several who were willing and capable and a few who were willing but not capable.
I must point out that in my social circles, such behavior isn't as unusual as in more mainstream social circles .
I hope that I didn't offend you in mentioning your weight . It would be the last thing I would ever do intentionally . I'm glad your carrier gives you security in your self esteem and his service to you.
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Audreyb,
I guess it really depends what part of the country one lives, if circles of friends have shoulder riding as the norm. Apart from one of my past friends who would carry his buddy on his shoulders when I was a teen, I haven't seen it much in my area. The guy who carries me now used to live in an area where shoulder riding was considered natural, but after relocating to where he is living now, he says there is no one who will ride his shoulders. That's cool and fun you got to participate in a lot of chicken fights and that you were one of the smaller girls who could be carried. I, too, have only sat on his shoulders while he is stationary, and if he is standing, while holding onto something, hee hee. Although, we are both very excited that recently I am able to sit on his shoulders with him sitting down but not leaning back against something and hands free! :-D
So was the time you rode on the gay guy's shoulders the first time you had the take-charge disposition? So I am curious; what makes you enjoy being the one in charge? I often read how quite a few riders like being in charge, but they never say why. I personally have never been a take-charge person and kina like carrier and me to be equals in a team. That way, neither one of us feels forced or obligated and do it as a matter of choice, which to us, brings more enjoyment of the activity and of each other into the picture. But I guess it really depends on the people's reasons for doing shoulder riding. Since quite a few carriers put themselves in the submissive role, they probably wouldn't want to carry me, since my reasons for liking it have nothing to do with being in charge, hee hee.
No worries. I wasn't at all offended by anything you said in regards to my weight. When I bring up my weight in regards to shoulder riding, I usually am just mentioning matter of fact without putting any emotion with it. So if someone says I am a heavy rider, I have to agree, because they are stating the truth. It's only if they say it to be degrading or implying that they wouldn't want to carry me for that reason, then I would take offense. But in the case of the guy who carries me, he likes having my extra weight on him, so it works for the both of us.
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Pickles:
To be honest I have always been the dominant or aggressive type in all my relationships.
Even in those beach chicken fights with consensual carriers, I was demanding in regard to the boy carrying me. It was kind of funny at times because some of those guys were more than twice my size and could have tossed me off with ease, but non ever did.
When I was dating my (now) ex-husband, I had him carry me on his shoulders when we were hiking. I was tired and pretended to hurt my ankle. I knew he wouldn't refuse because his macho ego would be challenged. At first I just sat up there and let him carry me , but he started jogging to show off and it bounced me too much. I squeezed his neck and held onto his hair. I knew he wouldn't dare dislodge me .He fell to his knees and almost passed out from my squeezing. I made him carry me the rest of the way exactly the way I wanted.
But it was that first ride on the gay man my friend loaned me that confirmed me views on shoulder riding. My friend insisted that take charge exactly as he was doing with his carrier . At first I was reluctant because I had empathy for the carrier. He was gay and I accepted that he didn't like women. But he was belligerent and rude and I took charge ,pushed his head forward so I could sit more comfortably and kicked him harder than I needed to to make him move faster without bouncing me. I discovered that treating him like a beast of burden was much better than having him treat me like unwelcome cargo and I rode him without empathy. His obedience made all the difference and I concluded that the rider must always believe and act superior.
I can't speak for all riders but I believe it's natural to feel superior to someone you are literally sitting on, regardless of where or how you sit on him or whether you're welcome to sit on him.
The nature of the relative positions obviously implies this fact.
You may see your carrier as your equal and more or less a playmate but he obviously feels a desire to serve beneath you and bear your weight. This is submission whether either of you acknowledge it at this point . In time, you may feel that your position on top of him is more dominant that just play. If this occurs, don't be disturbed by your feelings. It's quite normal and natural.
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Audreyb,
So I guess it wasn't hard to get into the take-charge position when shoulder riding, since it's in your personality. Those chicken fights sound quite amusing. I can just picture this petite girl sitting on a bigger guy, and here she is the one ordering him around, hee hee. It's one of those scenes that I think would be funny for a movie or something.
I actually like to be bounced on my carrier's shoulders. He doesn't do it that often, as it makes him very tired, but once in a while, he will bounce me, and I just love it! If your ex-husband was strong and could carry you some distances, I wonder why he didn't particularly enjoy doing that, even just to please you since you were his wife at the time.
Well, your demands on your gay carrier served him right, since he was rude and treating his rider, and a girl on top of that, badly.
My carrier and I have actually become quite close friends, so he is more than a carrier. I think you are right, though, that he does have some degree of wanting to please me while I ride on him. Even though he says he's not particularly submissive, he has a bit of the qualities of it, where he will keep me on him for as long as he can before his muscles give out and makes sure I am very comfortable and supported. I am more of an accommodating person, so I don't want to make him suffer underneath me. But I do enjoy it that he wants and likes to please me. He has told me before that when he used to give shoulder rides to other people, that he was mostly thinking about how it made him feel. But when he gives me rides, he thinks more about how I feel, and that my excitement and enjoyment of him under me makes him delight in carrying me more.
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Pickles:
I always felt in charge of boys in those days though don't think I ever expressed it verbally to any of the guys because teenage boys would probably feel the need to rebel. I wasn't experienced enough to deal with such a potential so I made my control of him part of the game. I knew enough about male ego to know how to play on it, especially when I was sitting on his shoulders.
I wasn't married to my ex-husband yet at the time of the ride I mentioned. But it was a determining factors concerning his potential for continuing dating him to find out how far I could push him and possibly train him. Yes he was quite strong which appealed to me. The challenge of controlling and dominating a strong and non-submissive man appealed to me at the time. He didn't like carrying me or being beneath anyone in any way but his submission to his punishment for bouncing me demonstrated a potential because he could have pried my legs apart if he really tried.
I don't mind bouncing if it's fun. I have bounced on carriers myself many times. It's only when the carrier makes me uncomfortable on purpose that I object and take the appropriate action.
It seems and I might guess that your carrier likes carrying you at least partially because of your weight. I might speculate that it's more than just the challenge and the friendship involved.
Their are very harmless ways for you to experiment to gain some insight on his true nature and desires. You might try innocently sitting on his knees while pretending to wipe the perspiration from his forehead. If he doesn't seem to mind or appears to like it, you might wait for an opportunity to playfully sit on his stomach while he reclines on the sofa. Since neither of these activities is shoulder riding but obviously involves him bearing your weight, he will be demonstrating his desire to submit to your feminine authority. You would be surprised how common this desire is with men. Once you know this about him, you can take this knowledge in any direction you like.
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AS A CARRIER
I want to wear T-shirt or something "small" because so my back of neck has nothing clothes covered. I want women feel my strong body between her thights and she enjoy riding on my shoulders. I want there is skin against skin.
I want to carry only women, adult women, not any small girls. I prefer more heavy as light women. More heavy women with thick tights turn my head because I want to feel her weight, feel her power as she squeeze my head between her strong tights. Woman can be more heavy as I'm but the ideal is 70-95kg so I can carry her longer time.
The most important for me is woman must wear skirt or dress. I want she wear sexy lingerie under skirt/dress or she can wear long skirt/dress and maybe no lingerie, that is HOT. Shorts are thick like jeans so that is not "my thing".
I want carry women long time until I collapse and that is HOT because it's woman who dominate me and I'm like her slave and she "win" as I'm on ground under her.
My dream is also carry woman in coctail dress. She has long stockings under dress and high heel shoes, I wear my expensive suit.
Audreyb, question for you: do you like at all what I write? Now you know my inner dreams :-D
Most difficult it is to lift woman from ground when man is down, not carrying. I like to struggle against her weight, I try to get up from ground while woman is sitting on my back of neck. When I have problems to lift her up and woman laugh because I'm so weak, miserable man, that is so sexy ;-D
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Audreyb,
That's cool you were able work your take-charge personality into the games you did shoulder riding for. I'm sure it made it feel more natural for both you and the carrier, since it would be more of the typical attitude of the games. Although, probably what attracted you to the games in the first place was the subconscious awareness of integrating your dominance over your carrier. I just like shoulder riding because of feeling his strong shoulders and neck underneath me and feeling important to him when on his shoulders.
It's really interesting that your ex-husband still carried you, even though he was more dominant himself. Did it ever bother you that his motives were different than yours and that he didn't readily submit, or did you just enjoy having your authority over him whether he liked it or not?
I assume that because of how my guy friend who carries me just calls me a friend, that his motives for carrying me have little to do with much else other than the feeling of carrying a heavier girl, which he prefers. I'm not sure if I feel comfortable sitting on his stomach while he is lying down, as that is more intimate, and for me, would be saved for a much more serious relationship or marriage. But I imagine it being quite fun, hee hee. Sometimes, I would misunderstand what he was motioning for me to do, and I would start to sit on his lap facing him. But he quickly had me change how I was sitting, so I could be sitting on his lap in princess style, since he carries me that way, too. I think, though, that he just likes carrying me that way, too, as it makes him feel strong, not because of anything romantic.
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Pickles:
My ex was showing off that first time and I was just taking advantage of his ego. I hadn't made up my mind about him at that time. I honestly didn't care about his motives and the first hint I had that I could take advantage of his personality was when I squeezed his neck with my thighs and he almost allowed himself to pass out rather than prying my thighs apart. He was more than strong enough but went down on his knees rather than fighting back. This made me contemplate the possibilities concerning how far I could take him. It wasn't really about sitting on his shoulders. It was a contest of wills and I wanted to find out if I could break him and turn a potentially dangerous macho type into a docile servant. The contest was more about me challenging myself as opposed to breaking him. Testing my own power so to speak.
I was quite proud of how far I was able to take him, getting him to serve in many ways he found distasteful. He rebelled several times before and later into our marriage. I simply became bored with him and tired of retraining him after his backsliding. He contested the divorce and begged literally on his knees to be taken back but I ended the marriage despite his begging and promises.
You may be right about your carrier's motives but I remain doubtful that you are just a challenge to his physicality. He may very well like larger women which is not unusual , but his desire to serve beneath you is a submissive fetish. Your desire to be carried and feel him beneath you is completely normal.
I don't see why sitting on his stomach would be more intimate than sitting on his shoulders. I would imagine his head between your thighs would imply greater intimacy. Obviously everyone has their own point of view. I have always found sitting on a man's body both convenient and fun. More cute than intimate. Straddling his lap also implies intimacy for most people, but I'm not challenging your views on such matters. You should of course do whatever you find comfortable, but keep in mind that he has motives of his own and you have the right to concentrate on your own motives and enjoyment.
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Audreyb,
That's interesting you viewed your shoulder riding with your ex more like a contest of seeing how much power you could exert over him. Is that how you view all of your shoulder riding experiences, I mean, apart from the chicken fight experiences? Do you happen to enjoy the shoulder ride just as much if the person is already submissive?
It could be, though, that him not prying your legs apart was more likely him not wanting to hurt you, as you would have fallen from him if he had done so. That's a shame you ended the marriage just because you were bored with him. Isn't that a little harsh? Not that I am trying to sound judgmental or tell you how to live your life, but where's the commitment?
I guess you do have a point about his head being between my thighs implying more intimacy than me sitting on his stomach. I guess I always thought sitting on a guy's stomach as being more sexual, because it's kinda the precursor to moving up toward his face or moving down toward...you know where. Whereas being on his shoulders, his back of the head is facing me, and he has expressed no interest in reverse-shoulder riding. But yes, shoulder riding does have a bit of intimacy of its own. And it seems we both look out for each other's motives, meaning he thinks about mine, and I think about his. Since we are both a team of equal members, we both like to make shoulder riding a fun experience for each other. And whatever his motives are, I am just satisfied and happy that someone likes to carry me on their shoulders, as my dream of riding on someone's shoulders is now a reality.
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As a dominate rider...
#1: I usually ride in full English riding attire (Slim fitting Full Seat Breeches, Long Riding Boots with Spurs, Gloves) and use a whip.
#5: Don’t really mind but prefer a smaller/lighter carrier
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Pickles:
I ended the marriage because I was bored with constantly retraining him to be obedient . He was completely aware of the rules when I agreed to marry him and he begged me to allow him to comply. The rules were not fair to him and I never pretended that they were or that the marriage would be a partnership.
He broke the rules and rebelled several times and I punished him for his violation but allowed him to come back into my life. But in the end I was more bored with trying to break him than simply bored with him.
His rebellion in the matter of riding on his shoulders or his back was actually fun sometimes. He weighed 100 lbs. more than I did and yet complained about me sitting on him too long. Often this was less than 30 minutes and much smaller and weaker men had supported me without verbally complaining for much longer.
As for the subject of intimacy in where and how you sit on someone, it's really a matter of how each person involved sees the situation and positioning.
It can be sensual, aggressive, dominating, dismissive or simply a matter of whim or convenience.
You have indicated that you are somewhat full figured. I don't see this as an issue or a deterrent and particularly not involving a submissive man. If you can't just sit on him comfortably when you choose, he probably won't be really useful in other ways.
I honestly wish I could arrange for you to ride or just sit on my ex husband for a day or so. Despite his complaining, you would see how resilient a healthy male is and lean to take full advantage of it as well as being comfortable being in charge.
On the rare occasion I have tried it, reverse shoulder riding wasn't comfortable and I found it awkward . For the obvious reason for such a position, you're better served by just sitting on his chest while he serves you.
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I am glad to read that you are becoming eager shoulder rider.
- I prefer my rider to be bear legged but it is ok if she wears jodhpurs or leggings.
- I prefer my rider to be tall as I am or yust little smaller, with voluptuous figure, and to have good posture on my shoulders this is important...she can be heavy..
- I prefer carrying women,
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